Do You Know Your Self-Worth?

Ladies,

I’ve noticed women often cheat themselves—in their lifestyle, love life, or any relationship. They say it’s because naturally we are givers. I can’t say I always knew my worth or what I wanted but I was taught to love myself and treat people the way I would want to be treated! So naturally I love hard and I respect first. I know they say to get respect you gotta earn it, but I’m cut from a different cloth! I give a 100 percent first, because to me when all else fails, you gave your all first. What does any of this have to do with worth? The point is stick to what you believe in, don’t give up your happiness for someone else!

Find a middle point, a happy medium, a way to make what’s important to you count or matter. Balance. Some people may take this as being selfish. It’s not selfish it’s self-love … and all the rest will follow.

So ladies, learn to love yourself first, you have to start inside, to shine on the outside … Don’t cheat yourself whether it be a job, a man, a lifestyle. Think big, dream big! I just learned this, this week: “name it then claim it.”

Love your beauty!

Tania Tolliver

How many times do we pay for one mistake?

The answer is thousands of times.

The human is the only animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the same mistake. The rest of the animals pay once for every mistake they make. But not us. We have a powerful memory. We make a mistake, we judge ourselves, we find ourselves guilty, and we punish ourselves. If justice exists, then that was enough; we don't need to do it again. But every time we remember, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again, and again. If we have a wife or husband he or she also reminds us of the mistake, so we can judge ourselves again, punish ourselves again, and find ourselves guilty again. Is this fair?

-Don Miguel Ruiz

Wall Street Journal

Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.